[A-->B Life] | mewithoutYou
release date: 2002 record label: tooth and nail
track list: 1) Bullet to Binary
2) The Ghost
3) Nice and Blue
4) Everything Was Beautiful And Nothing Hurt
5) (A)
6) Gentlemen
7) Be Still Child
8) We Know Who Our Enemies Are
9) I Never Said That I Was Brave
10) (B)
11) Silencer
12) The Cure for Pain
"the cure for the pain, is in the pain, so that’s where you’ll find me…”
The [A--> B] Life by alternative-punk / post-hardcore band mewithoutYou is the perfect place for
this potentially-never-ending experiment into the long forgotten recesses of my iPOD to officially
begin. As an impressionable high school student I remember first hearing about mewithoutYou
from a number of friends who were into the blossoming hardcore scene. To be honest, I didn’t
care too much for artists who screamed their lyrics at me but I put up with it fairly well; one to
had to think about one’s image when picking music in high school.
I can’t remember how this album came into my possession, but I know without a doubt that
before a few days ago I had never listened to it in its entirety. I tried numerous times, but
by the time I got through the first few songs I had lost interest. And so it has waited patiently
in the catacombs of my IPOD for its chance to resurface. Vocalist Aaron Weiss, who has the
tendency to speak his lyrics more than sing them, is joined in the band by his brother Michael
Weiss on guitar and for this, their debut album, Ricky Mazzotta on drums, Daniel Pishock on
bass and Chris Kleinburg on guitars.
MewithoutYou is not your typical post-hardcore band. The Weiss brothers are of Jewish
descent, but were raised in a Sufi Muslim household by parents who had converted from the
Episcopal church (their mother) and Judaism (their father). Aaron, the principal songwriter for
the band, came to Christ in high school and seamlessly blends imagery from Christianity, Islam
and Judaism into quite an interesting tapestry. Clearly well-read, Weiss quotes from the Sufi
poet Rumi, Kurt Vonnegut and John Donne at various points throughout this album. The
band has lived in an community house in Philadelphia and travel in a van that runs on vegetable
oil.
The songs comprising [A-->B] Life, as the band name suggests, dwell heavily on feelings of
loneliness and loss experienced at the ending of a long-term relationship. The pain, the
questioning, and the anger that are such integral parts of any breakup are here in copious
amounts.
Looking for a quiet place to experience this album, I retreated to my car and drove to the back
of an empty parking lot. The gray sky opened up and it began to rain; I watched water droplets
race each other down the driver’s side window as I started the album to Weiss’ screaming “don’t
you tell us about your suffering, look in our eyes, look in our eyes.” This mood hangs over the
entire album; in Nice & Blue he admits that “I once was alive, when you held me.” Silencer
finds Weiss at his most confessional: “I don’t do too much smiling these days.” In the same
song, he describes a woman (although it very well could describe anyone going through the
pain of heartache) by saying that “she put on happiness like a loose dress over pain.”
The confession of mewithoutYou lead me to my own: there have been plenty of days in my life
when I could echo the lyrics found on [A-->B] Life. I’m not sure anyone is to blame for the
innumerable nights I spent grieving over any number of girls; that seems to just be a part of
growing up. I do wonder, though, if society has affected our view of relationships and what they
can (and can’t) offer to us. I couldn’t count how many times, growing up in the church, that I
heard about the girl whom God had already picked out to be my wife. Hearing this so much, it
just became second nature to speed the process up for God by looking for her myself; you
know, just in case something went awry before God could bring us together on. And so every
girl I dated took on the persona of “the one;” in the end this resulted in me dating girls much
longer than I should have. I put up with issues and looked over glaringly obvious character
contradictions because, in my mind, surely this girl would eventually blossom into the wife
“promised” to me by God. Now that the days of messy relationships and tears of heartache
are behind me, I find that what I was told in my childhood by well-meaning adults was, in
actuality, true. God had picked out a beautiful woman to become my wife; the problem arose
when I tried to speed the process up. Once again, God’s timing won.
While I’m on the subject, can I just say that I think the whole idea of “kissing dating goodbye,”
as one book asked us to do, is a load of crap. I do believe that God knew, even before I was
born, what woman would become my partner through life. But unlike God, I did not know
who that girl was; my learning process was dating. With each subsequent girl I dated, I took
one step closer to knowing what characteristics I needed in a wife. If I had chosen not to date
I know that I would have made a disastrous choice when it came to marriage. There is no way
around the fact that experience leads to knowledge. Science operates on the idea of
“trial-and-error” and I have found the same principal at work in my own life.
Although I don’t anticipate having to suffer through the pain of romantic heartache still, I
understand that suffering is universal. I know and expect it to rear its ugly head again in my life.
People age, tragedies occur, death catches all of us. Pain is just as much a part of life as joy.
That’s why the book of Psalms contains songs of both praise and suffering; long before Aaron
Weiss was crying out from a broken heart, David was penning laments that would rival anything
on this album. We need the Psalms, and mewithoutYou, to sing our songs of doubt, questioning and
suffering when we don’t have the strength to sing for ourselves.
In the closing track of [A-->B] Life, Aaron sings that “the cure for the pain is in the pain, so that’s
where you’ll find me.” Our world teaches us to recover as quickly as possible from suffering; to
leave it behind as fast we can because it doesn’t look good on us. And while there is a need to
move on from the hurts in life, there is also something to be said for taking time to heal. There’s a
time for holding a wound close, to comfort and coddle it; but there comes a time when the wound
must see the light of day to experience real healing. MewithoutYou rips the bandages off their
wounds and exposes pain that we can all identify with, encouraging us to do the same. Perhaps
that’s the message of the [A-->B] Life, moving from a place of private pain to a world where
suffering is accepted and therefore ultimately healed. Therein lies the hope of the [A-->B] Life,
that, as David wrote in the Psalms, “weeping may stay for the night, but joy comes in the morning,”
or, as Weiss puts it on Nice & Blue, “I’m not the boy I once was, but I’m not the man I’ll be.”
On Be Still Child Weiss describes a woman who “was hiding because she wanted to be found.”
The [A-->B] Life has been hiding on my iPod since high school; it took me awhile, but what once
was lost, now is found. And what a sweet sound it is.
release date: 2002 record label: tooth and nail
track list: 1) Bullet to Binary
2) The Ghost
3) Nice and Blue
4) Everything Was Beautiful And Nothing Hurt
5) (A)
6) Gentlemen
7) Be Still Child
8) We Know Who Our Enemies Are
9) I Never Said That I Was Brave
10) (B)
11) Silencer
12) The Cure for Pain
"the cure for the pain, is in the pain, so that’s where you’ll find me…”
The [A--> B] Life by alternative-punk / post-hardcore band mewithoutYou is the perfect place for
this potentially-never-ending experiment into the long forgotten recesses of my iPOD to officially
begin. As an impressionable high school student I remember first hearing about mewithoutYou
from a number of friends who were into the blossoming hardcore scene. To be honest, I didn’t
care too much for artists who screamed their lyrics at me but I put up with it fairly well; one to
had to think about one’s image when picking music in high school.
I can’t remember how this album came into my possession, but I know without a doubt that
before a few days ago I had never listened to it in its entirety. I tried numerous times, but
by the time I got through the first few songs I had lost interest. And so it has waited patiently
in the catacombs of my IPOD for its chance to resurface. Vocalist Aaron Weiss, who has the
tendency to speak his lyrics more than sing them, is joined in the band by his brother Michael
Weiss on guitar and for this, their debut album, Ricky Mazzotta on drums, Daniel Pishock on
bass and Chris Kleinburg on guitars.
MewithoutYou is not your typical post-hardcore band. The Weiss brothers are of Jewish
descent, but were raised in a Sufi Muslim household by parents who had converted from the
Episcopal church (their mother) and Judaism (their father). Aaron, the principal songwriter for
the band, came to Christ in high school and seamlessly blends imagery from Christianity, Islam
and Judaism into quite an interesting tapestry. Clearly well-read, Weiss quotes from the Sufi
poet Rumi, Kurt Vonnegut and John Donne at various points throughout this album. The
band has lived in an community house in Philadelphia and travel in a van that runs on vegetable
oil.
The songs comprising [A-->B] Life, as the band name suggests, dwell heavily on feelings of
loneliness and loss experienced at the ending of a long-term relationship. The pain, the
questioning, and the anger that are such integral parts of any breakup are here in copious
amounts.
Looking for a quiet place to experience this album, I retreated to my car and drove to the back
of an empty parking lot. The gray sky opened up and it began to rain; I watched water droplets
race each other down the driver’s side window as I started the album to Weiss’ screaming “don’t
you tell us about your suffering, look in our eyes, look in our eyes.” This mood hangs over the
entire album; in Nice & Blue he admits that “I once was alive, when you held me.” Silencer
finds Weiss at his most confessional: “I don’t do too much smiling these days.” In the same
song, he describes a woman (although it very well could describe anyone going through the
pain of heartache) by saying that “she put on happiness like a loose dress over pain.”
The confession of mewithoutYou lead me to my own: there have been plenty of days in my life
when I could echo the lyrics found on [A-->B] Life. I’m not sure anyone is to blame for the
innumerable nights I spent grieving over any number of girls; that seems to just be a part of
growing up. I do wonder, though, if society has affected our view of relationships and what they
can (and can’t) offer to us. I couldn’t count how many times, growing up in the church, that I
heard about the girl whom God had already picked out to be my wife. Hearing this so much, it
just became second nature to speed the process up for God by looking for her myself; you
know, just in case something went awry before God could bring us together on. And so every
girl I dated took on the persona of “the one;” in the end this resulted in me dating girls much
longer than I should have. I put up with issues and looked over glaringly obvious character
contradictions because, in my mind, surely this girl would eventually blossom into the wife
“promised” to me by God. Now that the days of messy relationships and tears of heartache
are behind me, I find that what I was told in my childhood by well-meaning adults was, in
actuality, true. God had picked out a beautiful woman to become my wife; the problem arose
when I tried to speed the process up. Once again, God’s timing won.
While I’m on the subject, can I just say that I think the whole idea of “kissing dating goodbye,”
as one book asked us to do, is a load of crap. I do believe that God knew, even before I was
born, what woman would become my partner through life. But unlike God, I did not know
who that girl was; my learning process was dating. With each subsequent girl I dated, I took
one step closer to knowing what characteristics I needed in a wife. If I had chosen not to date
I know that I would have made a disastrous choice when it came to marriage. There is no way
around the fact that experience leads to knowledge. Science operates on the idea of
“trial-and-error” and I have found the same principal at work in my own life.
Although I don’t anticipate having to suffer through the pain of romantic heartache still, I
understand that suffering is universal. I know and expect it to rear its ugly head again in my life.
People age, tragedies occur, death catches all of us. Pain is just as much a part of life as joy.
That’s why the book of Psalms contains songs of both praise and suffering; long before Aaron
Weiss was crying out from a broken heart, David was penning laments that would rival anything
on this album. We need the Psalms, and mewithoutYou, to sing our songs of doubt, questioning and
suffering when we don’t have the strength to sing for ourselves.
In the closing track of [A-->B] Life, Aaron sings that “the cure for the pain is in the pain, so that’s
where you’ll find me.” Our world teaches us to recover as quickly as possible from suffering; to
leave it behind as fast we can because it doesn’t look good on us. And while there is a need to
move on from the hurts in life, there is also something to be said for taking time to heal. There’s a
time for holding a wound close, to comfort and coddle it; but there comes a time when the wound
must see the light of day to experience real healing. MewithoutYou rips the bandages off their
wounds and exposes pain that we can all identify with, encouraging us to do the same. Perhaps
that’s the message of the [A-->B] Life, moving from a place of private pain to a world where
suffering is accepted and therefore ultimately healed. Therein lies the hope of the [A-->B] Life,
that, as David wrote in the Psalms, “weeping may stay for the night, but joy comes in the morning,”
or, as Weiss puts it on Nice & Blue, “I’m not the boy I once was, but I’m not the man I’ll be.”
On Be Still Child Weiss describes a woman who “was hiding because she wanted to be found.”
The [A-->B] Life has been hiding on my iPod since high school; it took me awhile, but what once
was lost, now is found. And what a sweet sound it is.